The Psychology Of Dating

damnitLet’s face it – dating is hard! And there are so many things that go into it. So let’s take a look at some of the different things that go into the psychology of dating and see if we can’t give you some tips on how to mentally “hack” the entire process so you can feel more in control and less helpless and a slave to circumstances.

There’s been many studies done on the psychology behind dating – from body language to expectations to that bizarre inner dialogue that can plague even the most self-confident of people.

Don’t Make Too Many Plans

As if romantic attraction wasn’t delicate enough, don’t risk scaring off your potential dating partner by making too many plans in the beginning. Even simple things such as “we should see that movie together” or “let’s go to that art exhibit next month” can potentially cool off the early sparks of romantic attraction. Instead, let things develop a bit more slowly without roping your partner into too many commitments. Don’t be afraid to show the person you like them, but be a bit mysterious too. It will definitely help fan the flames of uncertainty, which can help spur on a romantic bond.

Don’t Try Too Hard

Ahh, the difference between being too casual and trying too hard. It’s a difficult line to walk, but it’s important. Do too little and you risk your date thinking that you’re lazy. Do too much and you’ll look a bit desperate. Make effort, but make it a casual effort. Show thought, but not obsession. Buy your date’s dinner, but don’t bring her a huge bouquet if you’ve only just met her. Plan out something cute, but don’t rent a limo to get there if you’re just starting out. Save that for the wedding day!

Try Online Dating

If the batch of potential mates at the local pub is starting to all look the same, then you might want to try branching out and starting up an online dating ad with one of the more popular dating sites out there. I recommend that users try Match or OKCupd. These sites have the most serious users, but others have also found luck with Plenty Of Fish and other sites. If you’re going to do the online thing, just keep your wits about you when you potentially meet someone for the first time. Also, ensure that your computer is up to date with the latest spyware and antivirus software.

The thing that’s great about online dating is that you already know what the other person wants – and it’s not friendship. So you’re both on the same page when it comes to dating, which can take a lot of the guesswork out of the first stages of meeting someone – the stage that often gives more shy people the most trouble. If you’re one of those individuals, then don’t hesitate to make a profile and try it out. I always tell people to message others as much as possible, and not to be afraid to reach out to people that look interesting.

Will Learning a New Language Help Me Get a Job?

languagesAs the competition for good jobs increases, employers are in a position to demand skill sets that were not considered essential in the past. For many jobs, speaking a second language is now a necessity. Being fluent in Spanish, for example, is now routinely required around the country as new immigrants travel to all regions for jobs. With industries expanding to overseas locations, many other languages are required to meet specific job requirements. Learning a second language not only helps when seeking a new job, it often makes the difference between getting a solid, high paying job and being left behind.

A variety of businesses and government agencies recruit individuals with language skills directly from colleges around the country. High demand languages include Chinese, Russian, Spanish and German. Arabic skills are also highly prized by recruiters. There is a demand for speakers of virtually any language, as business and geopolitical conditions dictate that communications channels always be open between individuals throughout the world.

While many people have the luxury of learning a new language during college years, others finding it advantageous to learn another language must look elsewhere for a learning opportunity. Depending on the individual, there are several approaches to take when seeking to learn a second, or even third, language. Local colleges and universities almost all have some type of program for individuals seeking to learn another language, but that may not be the ideal option for many people. With busy schedules to deal with, it is often inconvenient, or even impossible, to attend structured classes.

For anyone with an irregular schedule, using a computer-based learning program may be a more realistic option. The software necessary is not expensive when compared to college tuition costs, and the programs are designed to allow learners to progress at their own pace. However, each of the major language learning programs is different, so exploring the different options before buying is strongly recommended. Rocket Languages, Rosetta Stone and Speak From Day 1 are all proven to provide learners with basic skills and should be the first programs investigated.

Each of these programs has a different teaching style, and people will find some better to use than others. It all really depends on your own personal learning style. I always suggest to people that they read a bit about each different program and figure out how they would work for your own methods and preferences. Many of these programs have a trial period or a trial program so you can try it out. I suggest you do that as well. It can be annoying to purchase a program only to later realize that it’s not so great, or not what you expected. Do a bit of research and read some online reviews from language blogs to save yourself some time.

The demand for multi-lingual employees will almost certainly increase in the future, so learning another language should be a first priority for anyone in today’s competitive job market. The decision is not really if another language should be learned, but rather, which language should it be?